Why do guys look up TikTok girls instead of porn? My boyfriend of two years, looks up big boobs on TikTok. He has never once cheated on me, not on social media or IRL. He claims it’s to “get off real quick if I’m not home.”

Last Updated: 01.07.2025 01:50

Why do guys look up TikTok girls instead of porn? My boyfriend of two years, looks up big boobs on TikTok. He has never once cheated on me, not on social media or IRL. He claims it’s to “get off real quick if I’m not home.”

Your boyfriend says he uses it to ""get off real quick"" might just be his way of finding something quick and straightforward without delving into deeper adult content. For many, TikTok's bite-sized, visually stimulating content fits that quick-fix bill.

However, I totally get why this might feel uncomfortable for you. It's really important in relationships to have open lines of communication about what makes each other comfortable or not. Sharing how you feel about his habits and discussing boundaries regarding the consumption of such content will help clear the air and strengthen your trust.

It sounds like a tricky situation. It's quite common for folks to browse through social media platforms like TikTok in search of porn live streams, even when they're in a committed relationship. The appeal of TikTok is that it feels less intense than traditional adult videos - it's more accessible, and the content is usually a bit more ""real world"" or relatable, which can be appealing in its own way.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?